People walk in and out of our lives every day, hour, minute and second. Right at this moment, there is someone on their way in or out. It could be a random somebody or a significant someone. The difference, between the random and significant some, is decided by you. A somebody in one person’s life could be a nobody in another’s. The person is the same, it’s their importance and the role they play in each person’s life that’s difference. And that decision, lies with you. A fact we often tend to forget. We forget that the roles played by the people in our lives are decided by us and we hold the key to them being where they are. We put them in their position of power or insignificance. We are responsible for the people who affect us.
True we can’t choose our families. It’s something we start with by default. But here again we make our choices. Some of us are close to our mums, others with our dads and some with neither. We still define the dynamic of each relationship. We believe we live under societal, peer or familial pressure and use it as an excuse for our actions and decisions. When the truth of the matter remains that we come under the pressure only because we to. We define the pressure we succumb to. They only exist because we choose to acknowledge their presence. We decide who hold sway over us and we forget this. It’s not that we can’t, it’s that we don’t choose otherwise. This decision making is such a sub-conscious act that most of us don’t even realise it exists. We aren’t slaves to anyone’s opinions but our own.
It’s said that we hold our destiny in our hands. It’s not our actions that define and alter our lives but the decisions we take that lead to the actions. We hold the power. The power to shape our lives and mould our destiny. If only we would realise this. Realise that we are actually free and the only thing holding us captive is our own mind. Freedom is not just a physical attribute. True freedom starts with the freedom of the mind. As long as we’re caged within our minds, there’s only so much that the body can do.